Time for a brief lesson by Alexandra Franzen:
Who Should Read "How to Talk About Your Accomplishments Without Sounding Braggy and Annoying"? And Why?If you have accomplished something, and you want to share it (and your joy) with your friends, but don’t want to toot your own horn (so as to not disturb the delicate balance of the universe), you can use Franzen’s tips and tricks and actually do all of those things.
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About Alexandra FranzenAlexandra Franzen is a Portland-based writer and consultant.
Mostly interested in topics such as productivity, creativity, goal-setting, communication, and entrepreneurship, Franzen has had her writing featured in magazines such as “Time,” “Forbes” and “The Huffington Post.”
She has written two books so far: “50 Days to Say You’re Awesome” and “You’re Going to Survive.”
"How to Talk About Your Accomplishments Without Sounding Braggy and Annoying PDF Summary"Alexandra Franzen may not have a Wikipedia article just yet, but she does have a pretty visited webpage, an ever-growing fanbase, and few books to her name.
Even so, one day, soon after having her first book, “50 Days to Say You’re Awesome,” published, when asked by a friend of hers “So what’s been going on for you lately?," she replied the same way most of us regular Joes would do: “Oh, you know… things… and stuff.”
Fortunately, this friend of hers was one who knew about her book, so she (or he) didn’t want to accept that kind of nonsensical answer, pressing Alexandra to say something more about her book.
But Franzen wouldn’t give in: “It’s really just an illustrated book. Barely any writing. Plus, it’s not like it’s a bestseller or anything…”
And then her friend said something that struck the author of “How to Talk About Your Accomplishments Without Sounding Braggy and Annoying” to her very core:
‘Alex, you wrote a book, and it’s being sold in bookstores,’ she said, matter-of-factly. ‘That is amazing. I’m proud of you. Let me be happy for you. Stop downsizing your joy.’However, as you are about to learn, in social conventions and friendly conversations, the opposite of downsizing isn’t aggrandizing, but, well, being nice while joyful.
And Franzen shares her five rules on how you can do just that.
And we have our “Key Lessons” section reserved just for them.
Key Lessons from "How to Talk About Your Accomplishments Without Sounding Braggy and Annoying"1. Keep It Simple 2. Whenever Possible, Use "Because" 3. Discuss the Future of Hard Work Ahead of You 4. Make It a Conversation, Not a Monologue 5. Shift the Conversation… Even Further
Keep It SimpleAccomplishing something doesn’t mean using every opportunity to go off on an hour-long rant (or, to use Franzen’s word "ramble-fest") about how you showed your high school classmates that you’re better them.
And it doesn’t mean overstating the accomplishment or glorifying your discipline and dedication.
Be simple and matter-of-factly: “I just got promoted at work. I think I am capable of rising up to the challenge.”
No exclamation marks!
Whenever Possible, Use "Because"Franzen informs us that a Harvard research study has all but proved that using the word "because" results in people agreeing with you much more likely.
So, to use Franzen’s example, say something along the lines of:
I’m really excited about my promotion to a senior-level position because I want to live in a world where 50% of CEOs are female, instead of just 4.6%.
Discuss the Future of Hard Work Ahead of YouStaying still with our promotion-related example (we think you can easily translate the strategy into almost every other situation when you have to talk about your accomplishments).
For most people, telling them that you’ve just been promoted to a senior-level position is not much different from telling them that you’re about to earn much more money for doing a lot less work.
So, counter this from the start: “I just got promoted at work to a senior-level position. It’s a lot more challenging and time-consuming job, but I think I have the right motivation and state of mind. And I’m going to prove to them that they made the right choice.”
Make It a Conversation, Not a MonologueAnd… stop there.
If you go on talking about yourself after these few sentences, you’ve broken rule #1, i.e., you’ve not kept things simple.
Now, it’s time to engage your friend in this (so far) quite boring discussion which includes him/her not one bit.
So, start talking about your friend’s recent accomplishments.
In case there are none, and he/she hates his/her job, ask him/her something like “What would be your dream job?” or “Do you have a fantasy career?”
This should open up the conversation and earn you some friendship points.
Shift the Conversation… Even FurtherDon’t stop there.
In case you notice that the news about your accomplishment has made your friend even less happy – be even more generous!
And spend as much time as you need to get him/her to talk about something positive and upbeat.
The world, after all, doesn’t revolve around you.
So, never forget that when things go your way, there are many people around you whose lives haven’t been as generous.
It’s your turn.
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Our Critical Review"How to Talk About Your Accomplishments Without Sounding Braggy and Annoying" may be nothing more than one more uninspiring article compiling in a list few commonsense things everybody should know and do, but – since the latter is not the case – the former is certainly not the case either.
In other words, for all its brevity, “How to Talk About Your Accomplishments Without Sounding Braggy and Annoying” should inspire you to become a better and more caring person.